The Words We Speak

“But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints. Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.”

~Ephesians 5:3-4

As an editor and publisher, I see lots of manuscripts and get asked a lot of questions about what is acceptable for publishing with my company. One of the things that comes up regularly is curse words and “adult” situations— would-be authors want to know how much cursing and sex we will accept. My answer is, of course, none. As writers, we should be able to express our thoughts without using those elements, and as Christians, we should already know the answer. What people really want is approval to use those elements and I won’t give it to them. We are Christians and held to a higher standard by God, so the least we can do is hold ourselves, and each other, to that same standard.

“I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak (Matthew 12:36).”

When we claim to be followers of Christ, our lives are to reflect His life. There should be obvious changes in how we act, how we speak, and in our demeanor both privately and in public. What we do reflects who we are, and if we are living for Christ, that should be as obvious as when we were living in sin. Everything we do is done in the presence of Jesus Christ. Every word we speak or write goes to the ear of God and we will be held accountable. You can’t ride the fence between living for Christ and living in the world; we are to live for Christ alone.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect (Romans 12:2).”

It’s easy to follow the world’s morals and standards because the bar is very low but following Christ requires us to separate ourselves from the world and its ways. It takes strength to follow Christ and abide in Him and His ways. Being separated from this world is what following Christ is all about. When we accept Christ as our Savior, we are called to be different than we were, different than the rest of the world, and we are to show that difference in everything we do.

“Since therefore Christ suffered in the flesh, arm yourselves with the same way of thinking, for whoever has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, so as to live for the rest of the time in the flesh no longer for human passions but for the will of God. For the time that is past suffices for doing what the Gentiles want to do, living in sensuality, passions, drunkenness, orgies, drinking parties, and lawless idolatry. With respect to this they are surprised when you do not join them in the same flood of debauchery, and they malign you; but they will give account to him who is ready to judge the living and the dead. For this is why the gospel was preached even to those who are dead, that though judged in the flesh the way people are, they might live in the spirit the way God does (1 Peter 4:1-6).”

Read Isaiah 31-36

©2018 Marie McGaha

RUN!!!

“And after a time, his master's wife cast her eyes on Joseph and said, “Lie with me.” But he refused and said to his master's wife, “Behold, because of me my master has no concern about anything in the house, and he has put everything that he has in my charge. He is not greater in this house than I am, nor has he kept back anything from me except you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” And as she spoke to Joseph day after day, he would not listen to her, to lie beside her or to be with her. But one day, when he went into the house to do his work and none of the men of the house was there in the house, she caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand and fled and got out of the house.” 

~Genesis 39:7-12

Have you ever been in a situation where you knew you should just walk away but because the end result sounded so great, you didn’t? It could’ve been the offer of money or a good time, something that appealed to your senses, yet somewhere inside, that little voice of reason kept warning you to get out, instead you ignored it and wound up wishing you hadn’t. I’ve been there. I’ve done the wrong thing because it either offered something I thought I wanted, or because I didn’t want those around me to think I was weak or afraid. I heard that voice inside and told it to shut up and leave me alone, only to regret it later. Seduction is a heady feeling and appeals to all our mortal senses. It makes us feel included, liked, special, and part of something. It appeals to our most base senses and it’s one of the devil’s greatest tools.

“You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, or his male servant, or his female servant, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that is your neighbor's (Exodus 20:17).”

If there’s one commandment I’ve broken, it’s been the one above. So, what does it mean to covet? Simply, it means to want something someone else has. It’s a yearning, or desire to have something, which leads to doing anything to obtain it. How do we first covet? With our eyes. We covet what we see every day. Whether it’s our neighbors big house with a pool, the ’57 T-Bird they drive, the gold and diamonds they hang on their necks, the furs draped over their shoulders, we covet what we see. It’s the whole “keeping up with the Joneses” deal that’s been going on since Cain killed Abel. It’s what happened to Jesus when the devil took Him on the pinnacle of the temple and showed Him all the riches of the world and offered to give them to Jesus if He just bowed before satan (Luke 4:5). Covetousness grows into lust and lust becomes unbearable until we give in and go after the object of our desire. People throw away their marriages from lusting after another person; they gamble away their savings lusting after more money; they throw away their lives lusting after drugs and alcohol, and it all begins with that little seed of desire that we allow to take root when we ignore the voice that says, “RUN!”

“For we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content. But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation, into a snare, into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs. But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness (1 Timothy 6:7-11).”

Read Isaiah 18-23

Weekend reading Isaiah 24-30

©2018 Marie McGaha

Wives, Submit! Really?

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”

~Ephesians 5:22

This is probably the most unpopular verse in the Bible for women, and one of the most abused by men. What does submitting to your husband mean? Is this just a way for men to control women? Before you decide the Bible is anti-female, let me assure you, it’s not. In fact, this verse doesn’t mean what most people think it does, and it is most definitely not intended to be used as an excuse for men to run roughshod over women.

In everything that God does, there is an order. There’s an order in the church -- Christ is head of the church, a pastor is second-in-command, followed by the associate pastor, and then any others, such as deacons or whatever an individual church calls their support ministry. Every person in a church is subject to their pastor, who is subject to God. However, the pastor is also subject to his congregation in the sense that if a pastor is stepping outside of biblical parameters for his position, the church body has a responsibility to say something to ensure the integrity of the church.

As a whole, society is built on the same order as the church. We have a government that is responsible for the nation, with individual state governments, county governments, city and local governments that are all responsible for the people of that area. Each of us are subject to local, state, and federal laws. All of these are designed to keep peace and order for the citizens, and to ensure our individual liberties and protection as human beings.

But order and peace begin within the home. Without biblical order in the home, we find that the family begins to deteriorate, children become unruly, and we see that happening more and more. Women are becoming the heads of households, and are single parents raising and trying to support their children on their own. This was not God’s design for the home.

God’s design is for a godly home, where parents are devoted to Jesus Christ, and put Jesus as head of their own lives first. In a godly home the husband is the head of the family. This does not mean the husband is to dominate his wife and children, but that he is submitted to, and under the rule of, Jesus Christ. It means he is responsible for his family’s support, care, and welfare, and he answers to God for his family.

A man is to “cleave” to his wife (Genesis 2:24). In other words, they are to be glued together. They are to be “one flesh” (Mark 10:8), and are to consider their bodies as belonging to the other spouse (1 Corinthians 7:4).

As the husband submits himself to Jesus Christ as Lord of his life, he is under the protection of God. In the same way, when women submit to their husbands, they come under his protection. When it’s storming out, we put on our jackets and get out the umbrella to be protected from the elements. In the same way, when we submit, we come under the umbrella of the protection of our husbands who are under the umbrella of protection of God.

This is why it is so important to make sure that we marry a godly man. We are to wait for the Lord to bring us our husbands. But even men who are in the church are not always what they seem, so we have to enter into these relationships with prayer, godly advice, and the assurance that the person we are about to marry for life is truly the person God wants us to marry for life.

“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14).”

In the same way, men must choose their wives through prayer and godly counsel because, “It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife (Proverbs 25:24).”

From Shine His Light by Marie McGaha

©2017 DWB Publishing

Read Isaiah 12-17

Soul Ties

“Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

~1 Thessalonians 5:23

The words “soul ties” does not actually appear in the Bible and it is a concept that has come from the human mind. However, there is enough biblical evidence to back up the idea. When we join ourselves to another person, especially sexually, we become tied, in an emotional sense, to that person, even after the relationship has ended.

God created us to be with one man or one woman, depending on our gender, for the rest of our lives. We were not intended to have multiple partners. We were not intended to go from person to person looking for the “perfect” relationship, and we were not intended to have multiple sexual partners prior to marriage (or after).

We were intended to keep ourselves pure physically and emotionally, so that when we meet the one that God prepared for us, we would come to that person the same way that the church will come to Jesus Christ—without spot or wrinkle.

We continue to have emotional attachments to a person that we’ve had a relationship with even after the relationship ends. Whether it was a one-night stand or a short-term relationship, there is no ending of the emotional tie that remains in our minds and hearts even years after it occurs.

When sexual intimacy occurs between a man and a woman a soul tie is created. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24).” We become one with the person that we have sexual intimacy with, and along with the sexual connection comes an emotional connection. It’s much easier to sever that fleshly connection then it is to sever the emotional connection. And we see the disastrous results years later.

Not only do these connections last for years and cause emotional upheaval for us, it is passed on to the next generation. Children who are born out of wedlock by fathers who are absent suffer emotional problems that come from the absence of that parent.

1 Corinthians 6:16 warns us against casual sexual encounters—"Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, 'The two will become one flesh.'”

Sexual immorality is one of the leading causes of divorce. It is, in my opinion, the leading sin in the world. We see sex glorified in movies, TV shows, commercials, music, and videos. Everything around us is based on sex, and we are being enticed to buy products using sex, or enticed to go to certain places using sex in the advertisements. Everything in this world is based on sexual enticement.

However, the Bible tells us to, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body (1 Corinthians 6:18).”

So much of our heartaches comes from what we do with our bodies. So many diseases are a transmitted because of what we do with our bodies. But the Bible tells us that our bodies are the Temple of the Holy Spirit and we are to treat them as such (1 Corinthians 6:19).

We were designed for Heaven not for hell. The lies of satan abound in this world but the truth of God remains the same and is available for us in His word.

From Shine His Light by Marie McGaha
DWB Publishing © 2017 

Read Isaiah 7-11

Husbands, Love Your Wives

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”

 ~Ephesians 5:25

I’ve always found it amusing that in the Bible wives are not once commanded to love their husbands; they are commanded to show respect for their husbands. On the other hand, husbands are commanded to love their wives. Not just love as in having feelings of affection for, but to love her the way that Christ loved the church. An all-encompassing, sacrificial love - Agape love.

In a biblical view of marriage, a man has an enormous job as husband. He is to be head of his household the way that Christ is head of the church. He is to be the leader of the wife and the children. Not just in a sense that he has to work and support them, which he is commanded to do as well, he is to be a Christian leader and to teach his children the ways of the Lord, and make sure they grow up with a biblical view of life honoring the Lord God. He is to be a shining example of Christian love, and a shining example of a Biblical husband to his wife. He is to be an outstanding member of society and the church; a man that other men look to for direction and to emulate as a husband.

In 1 Timothy 3 there is a list of qualifications for men to oversee the church. It begins with “he must be the husband of one wife” then continues:

"temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach; not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous; one who rules his own house well (vv. 2-4)." These are the qualifications a man must have in his own home before he is able to hold any position in church.

This seems like a contradiction to everything that we see going on in the world because everything from God is absolutely contradictory to everything of the world. God has a plan and an order for our lives, including our married lives. When we step out of God’s will and into the lies of the world, we can see the reason for divorce, domestic violence, child abuse, drug addiction, and alcoholism.

God does not allow for a man to be violent for any reason, especially not with his wife and children (Colossians 3:19, 21). Domestic violence is one of the only two reasons allowed for divorce. A man must also support his family. In today’s society, that seems to be lost on a good majority of men. 1 Timothy 5:8 says a man who doesn’t support his family is “worse than an unbeliever.”

Being a husband and father is a huge job filled with immense responsibility. Neither role is to be entered into lightly or without the knowledge that it is a commitment to the Lord for life.

From Shine His Light by Marie McGaha

DWB Publishing  © 2017 

Read Isaiah 1-6 

A Truckers Wife

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.”

~Colossians 3:23-24

My husband is a truck driver, which isn’t an easy life… not for him or for me. Up until a year ago, he was often gone for weeks at a time and only home a week in between. He spent the first few days sleeping and eating, while I spent those days doing his laundry and getting him ready to go out again. Now he leaves on Sunday and gets in on Friday, so we see each other more often, but since he doesn’t get in till after noon, he’s tired and we turn in early. Saturday is our day to go do something together, like hike the mountains, take the dogs to the river, or go fishing. But I still spend the rest of the day doing his laundry, cooking, and getting ready for him to leave on Sunday. It’s stressful for both of us but it’s the life we’ve chosen. I don’t always like his choice of career because he’s always gone or getting ready to leave, which puts the brunt of homelife on me. From taking care of animals, planting the garden, mowing the lawn, to the rest of the usual housewife duties, it’s all on me. On top of the fact I own my own business, I have a lot to do. But the most important job I ever took on was Nathan’s wife, and the reason he does his job is me. And his job makes my life possible. We are a team in every aspect of our lives and we under-stand that one of us without the other would be devastating to us both. We have a symbiotic relationship, that is, it’s mutually beneficial but it’s so much more. Our relationship is not based on each other simply as human beings but on the idea that when we married, we entered a covenant with God, believing each of us was the person God set aside for us alone, to spend the rest of our lives with, and to be together forever with God in Heaven when this life is over.

“Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me (John 15:4).”

Relationships fail every day. But relationships where God is first, will always survive the hardships of life. It’s not easy giving your life over to another person, trusting them completely, depending on them, and always being there for them. But when you trust God, you trust His plan for your life and trust that the person He brings into your life as a husband or wife, is the perfect person for you. Yes, it’s hard work. Yes, there can be obstacles to overcome. Yes, there will be disagreements and even arguments. There may even be days you feel like giving up but when the Lord is the head of your household, there will be a way to get over the hurdles. God is a family man. He loves us, He loves our spouses, He loves our children. He even loves our mother in-laws. God loves our relationships and when we love Him with all our being and put Him first, our marriages will be blessed and beautiful.

“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8).”

Read Song of Solomon

© 2018 Marie McGaha

Reckless Raging Fury

“There's a wideness in God's mercy 
I cannot find in my own 
And He keeps His fire burning 
To melt this heart of stone 
Keeps me aching with a yearning 
Keeps me glad to have been caught 
In the reckless raging fury 
That they call the love of God…”

The Love of God by Rich Mullins, 1985

The above song is one of my favorites. I don’t think Rich Mullins ever did a song I don’t like but this one strikes a chord within my soul. My grandmother was a minister and I grew up hearing about God’s love, salvation, mercy and grace but the life that tossed me about was a striking contrast to what Grandma said was true. Not only was it confusing to a child, it got worse as I got older and saw more of the world and less of what Grandma called truth. The world was a careless, unloving place full of pain and sorrow and God was a concept so far away, I couldn’t fathom His existence on any plain, much less as a loving father. But somehow, that “reckless raging fury” of God’s love found me and pulled me out of the sea of misery that tossed me around for so many years. I can’t tell you how or why without giving the same answers my grandmother did—God loves us no matter what we do, or how we let Him down, and when God calls our name, everything changes.

“’Behold, at that time I will deal with all your oppressors. And I will save the lame and gather the outcast, and I will change their shame into praise and renown in all the earth. At that time I will bring you in, at the time when I gather you together; for I will make you renowned and praised among all the peoples of the earth, when I restore your fortunes before your eyes,’ says the Lord (Zephaniah 3:19-20).”

All of us feel like outcasts sometimes, and we’ve all done things we are ashamed of but the thing with God is, He has seen every evil thing we’ve done, and He still loves us. God is the only One we never have to prove anything to. We don’t have to dress a certain way, talk a certain way, wear make-up, or do anything to try and impress Him the way we’ve had to do with the people in our lives. God knows the innermost secrets, the hidden things we wouldn’t dare tell a living soul because we know they would kick us to the curb if they knew the real us. But long before we come to the point of confessing our sins to God and accepting Christ as our Savior, He already knew our innermost secrets and the darkest thoughts we’ve had. Yet, He doesn’t care. He loves us anyway, with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3), and the wideness of God’s love is immeasurable, incomprehensible, unbelievable, and all-encompassing. His compassion for us is beyond measure and His love is truly a “reckless, raging, fury” because there are no lengths He will not go to, no depths He will not sink to, and no sin He will not forgive in order to have us by His side.

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword? As it is written, ‘For your sake we are being killed all the day long; we are regarded as sheep to be slaughtered.’ No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.  For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:35-39).”

Read Ecclesiastes 5-7

Weekend reading Ecclesiastes 8-11

 © 2018 Marie McGaha